GENDER ISSUES FROM A MALE PERSPECTIVE

Gathered together are a number of articles related to how men and boys are treated by society and the media. The articles, for the most part, concentrate on misandry, domestic violence and female violence and reflect an anti-RADICAL FEMINIST viewpoint. Although articles are pro-male, they are not anti-female.

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Monday, January 23, 2006

LIST OF FEMALE SEXUAL PERVERTS

List begins after pervert Sherry Brians story.

SEXTRA CREDIT
Woman having sex with little boys

A California woman is the latest teacher suspected of raping a student, as 41-year old Sherry Brians is in custody for allegedly having a sexual relationship with a 12-year old boy.

Brians, a third-year language-arts instructor at Buttonwillow School in Buttonwillow, Calif., was arrested yesterday and charged with committing a lewd or lascivious act with a child under the age of 14, a felony.

Kern County Sheriffs Sgt. Richard Wood said Brians, who is unmarried and had no previous disciplinary problems, was involved in "some type of romantic relationship" with the victim, and the alleged offense took place on school property.

Authorities began their probe just before Christmas when the boy's mother provided them a letter she found in her son's backpack. Wood said the note from Brians indicated there was a romantic relationship between the teacher and the boy.

"We're just in shock and disbelief," principal James Murphy told the Bakersfield Californian. "This is a heavy (situation) ... It's stunning. (The allegations) came out of the blue."

Murphy stressed the teacher was innocent until proven guilty, but added, "It's very important for our Board of Trustees and teachers that the public know that students are safe and in an orderly environment."

Some students at the middle school are coming to Brians' defense.

Local area residents are already blogging about the issue:

"No more slut teachers in public schools. If it we're my son, they'd be burying that 'woman.' First the apple in Eden. Now molesting innocents. Hang her." (Dallas)

"She was really the best teacher we had and might possibly ever have. When, not if, she is proven innocent, me and my friend will be the first ones to see her." (Alan Lopez, former student of Brians)

Brians was booked on a $100,000 bail, and is slated for a court appearance tomorrow morning at Kern County Superior Court.

She joins a long list of women who have been accused or convicted of having illegal sexual activity with children.

Among the most well-known is the case of Debra Lafave, a 26-year-old reading teacher in Florida accused of having sex with a 14-year-old boy in her classroom, car and at home. Her plea deal sparing her jail time and giving her just house arrest was thrown out last week and her trial is now slated for April 10.

Other cases collected by WND from news reports include:

Adrianne Hockett: Accused of having sex with a 16-year-old special-needs student in a Houston apartment she rented for the get-togethers. The boy has testified the pair would "have sex, drink beer and smoke weed."

Amber Jennings, 31: Initially charged with having sex with a 16-year-old, the counts against the Sturbridge, Mass., woman were reduced to a single charge of disseminating harmful materials to a minor. She reportedly admitted e-mailing naked photos of herself to a former student.

Amber Marshall, 23: Northwest Indiana woman allegedly had sexual contact, including intercourse, with several students, and turned herself into authorities, telling police she knew what she did was illegal.

Amira Sa'Si, 30: Clayton County, Ga., woman remarked she didn't think her relationship was inappropriate based on her Internet research, learning the Peach State's age of consent is 16.

Amy Gail Lilley, 36: Inverness, Fla., woman charged with an alleged relationship with a 15-year-old girl.

Angela Stellwag, 24: Delran, N.J., woman accused of having sex in her apartment with a 14-year-old boy she met in school.

Beth Raymond, 31: Private-school employee from Pownal, Maine, charged with risk of injury to a minor and second-degree sexual assault of a juvenile male.

Bethany Sherrill, 24: Daughter-in-law of school-board president is charged with molesting a middle school student when he was 14.

Carol Flannigan, 50: Boca Raton, Fla., music teacher reportedly slept with 11-year-old former student, and also had a simultaneous sexual relationship with the boy's father.

Celeste Emerick, 32: Police in Huber Heights, Ohio, say she hosted a party where students were shown porn.

Christina Gallagher, 26: Jersey City, N.J., woman ordered to pay more than $1,000 in fines, sentenced to a lifetime registration as a convicted sex offender and ordered to attend therapy for having sex with a 17-year-old student.

Deanna Bobo, 37: Arkansas teacher allegedly had sex twice with a 14-year-old boy in his own bed while his parents were not home.

Donna Carr Galloway, 33: Married mother of two found naked in a car with a 17-year-old student.

Elisa Kawasaki, 25: Officials say ex-biology teacher had sexual relations with a 16-year-old student on up to 20 different occasions.

Elizabeth Miklosovic, 36: Grand Rapids, Mich., woman pleaded no contest to sexually assaulting a 14-year-old female student she "married" in a pagan ritual.

Elizabeth Stow, 26: Woman from Fresno, Calif., area convicted of having sex with three of her students was sentenced to nine years, but the judge suspended that sentence and gave her one year, possibly on house arrest, as well as faces five years probation.

Ellen Garfield, 43: Former student says teacher took him into an empty classroom where she worked, partially disrobed, and coaxed him into having sex with her in 1998. Garfield was acquitted of all charges in September of this year.

Emily Morris, 28: Alabama woman faced a possible 20-year sentence, but received one year in jail for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old student.

Erica Rutters, 29: York, Pa., woman allegedly wrote erotic messages to a 17-year-old student and had sexual intercourse with him four times in her apartment.

Georgianne Harrell, 24: Sylvester, Ga., woman charged with performing oral sex on a 9-year-old boy, allowing students to gaze down her blouse and slashing her wrists with glass in front of her students. She pleaded not guilty.

Gwen Ann Cardozo, 33: Colorado woman charged with having sex with a 17-year-old male student.

Heather Ingram, 30: Mathematics, science and business teacher in British Columbia had sex with a 17-year-old student.

Janelle Marie Bird, 24: Accused of having a two-year affair with a 15-year-old student from East Hill Christian School, in Pensacola, Fla.

Jaymee Wallace, 28: Basketball coach in Tampa, Fla., charged with having an 18-month lesbian relationship with a student.

Joan Marie Sladky, 28: Redwood City, Calif., woman sentenced to six months in county jail for having sex with a 16-year-old student after pleading no contest to four counts of unlawful sexual intercourse, oral copulation and penetration with a foreign object.

Katherine Tew, 30: Married English teacher from Greenville, N.C., arrested for having sex with a 17-year-old student.

Kathy White, 39: Charged with having sex with a 17-year-old student in Lumberton, Texas. Victim alleges: "She just started grabbing me and hormones were on and it just happened."

Kelly Lynn Dalecki, 28: Woman from St. Augustine, Fla., pleaded no contest to charges she had sex with a 13-year-old boy.

Kristen Margrif, 27: Michigan woman accused of having sex with a 16-year-old male student in her car or at his summer workplace.

Kristi Dance Oakes, 32: Former Tennessee high-school teacher allegedly had sex with a 16-year-old boy who was in her biology class the previous year.

Lakina Stutts, 40: School-bus driver admitted to cops she had sex with a 14-year-old student in her home and in a car outside the boy's home.

Laura-Anne Brownlee, 26: Former music mistress at a top private school in Belfast, N. Ireland, was sentenced on six charges of indecently assaulting a 15-year-old boy.

Laura Lynn Findlay, 30: Middle-school band teacher in Buena Vista Township, Mich., charged with having sex with at least 5 students, one as young as 14.

Margaret De Barraicua, 30: Sacramento, Calif., area woman arrested after police found her having sex with a 16-year-old male student in her car while the woman's toddler was strapped into a seat in the back.

Maria Saco, 28: Passaic, N.J., woman sentenced to a year in jail for an intimate relationship with a teen student who was 14 when they first met.

Mary Kay Letourneau, 34: Des Moines, Wash., woman did prison time after having an affair with a sixth-grade student, and had two children by him. The couple recently married.

Melissa Michelle Deel, 32: Bristol, Tenn., woman pleaded guilty to crossing the state line into Virginia to have oral sex with a 13-year-old male student.

Michelle Kush, 29: Ohio woman allegedly had sex with a 15-year-old boy several times during summer break.

Nicola Prentice, 22: British woman from Sheffield, England, given a 12-month suspended jail sentence after she seduced a 16-year-old student and began a 19-month affair.

Nicole Andrea Barnhart, 35: Colorado woman reportedly told police she loves the 16-year-old boy with whom she was having sex. She pled guilty to felony sexual assault on a child, resulting in a two-year prison sentence and a minimum of 10 years in a sex-offender probation program.

Nicole Pomerleau, 31: High-school English teacher in Charlotte, N.C., accused of having a sexual relationship with her 16-year-old student.

Pamela Smart, 22: Media-services director at Winnacunnet High School in Hampton, N.Y., had convinced her 15-year-old lover to murder her husband. The Nicole Kidman film "To Die For" is based on her story.

Pamela Turner, 27: Former model and beauty-pageant contestant accused of having a three-month sexual relationship with a 13-year-old boy.

Rachelle Vantucci, 32: Ex-substitute teacher in western New York admitted having sex with a 16-year-old boy.

Rebecca Boicelli, 33: Redwood City, Calif., woman gave birth to a baby last year and DNA test results gave prosecutors enough evidence to prove the father is Boicelli's former student, who was 16 at the time of conception.

Rhianna Ellis, 24: New York City teacher who allegedly had a 10-month affair with an 18-year-old, and allgedly gave birth to his baby.

Robin Gialanella, 26: Elementary teacher in Toms River, N.J., engaged in kissing, and inappropriate conduct and conversations with two sixth-grade boys, ages 11 and 12. She was sentenced to 364 days in jail.

Robin Winkis, 29: York, Pa., woman allegedly had sex with a 17-year-old boy after giving him alcohol.

Samantha Solomon, 29: Fired after school bosses learned she was having sex with a teenage boy. She denies the charges.

Sandra "Beth" Geisel, 42: Albany, N.Y., woman was fired from her job at an private all-boys school after police in found her in a parked car with a 17-year-old. She pleaded guilty to a single count of rape and was sentenced to six months in jail.

Shelley Allen, 35: East Texas teacher's aide accused of sexual assault and faces a possible 20 years behind bars.

Shelley White, 24: Geography teacher in Britain had been engaged to be married before she kissed a 15-year-old student on at least three occasions. She avoided jail, but received 12 months community service.

Stephanie Burleson: Volleyball coach and teacher at Floresville High School in Texas six years ago, pleaded guilty to all charges for molesting a 16-year-old female student. She was sentenced to 10 years probation, and required to register as a sex offender.

Susan Eble, 35: Former teacher's aide is accused of having a sexual relationship with a 14-year-old boy.

Tara Lynn Crisp, 29: Police allege she had sex with a student at least three times beginning when he was 14.

Toni Lynn Woods, 37: The Braxton County, W.Va., woman confessed to having sexual intercourse with three juveniles a total of four times and oral sex with one of those juveniles and another juvenile a total of four times. She resigned.

Posted: January 5, 2006
© 2006 WorldNetDaily.com

MEN-BASHING ADVERTISEMENTS

Men vs. misandry

You've seen him in TV commercials. He's the guy who can't open a pickle jar or
take care of his kids, the husband raised by wolves, the balding, portly fellow
who leaps for joy now that a pill has solved his impotence. He's the one
scalded by hot coffee and hit in the crotch with a bowling ball, though he
doesn't seem to mind.

In the powerful dominion of television advertising, this hapless, sloppy,
beer-drinking punch line is the modern American man.

And critics say he's getting more than his fair share of abuse.

"If anything like this was happening to blacks or women or Jews, it would be
considered a moral crime," says Warren Farrell, a California author and men's
rights advocate. "We're being flooded with advertising in which either a male
is being hit by a female, or the man is simply the jerk."

Farrell, author of the 1993 book "The Myth of Male Power," is one of a small
but growing number of men - and a few women - protesting what they consider
sexist, stereotypical and even mean-spirited ads. Male-bashing, they claim, is
the last politically safe perversion.

"At this point in time, if advertisers served up women the same way that guys
are treated, it would be world war," says Steve Feinberg, chief creative
officer at the Seiden Group, a New York ad agency. "Advertising has cycled its
way through that. Right up through the early 1980s, (the message to women) was
'Spend all day obsessing over whether you have the right toilet bowl cleaner,
because that's how you define yourself.' But you can't do that anymore."

Late last year, Richard Smaglick, 40, a New Hampshire engineer and father,
launched the Society for the Prevention of Misandry in the Media - misandry
being the seldom-heard counterpart to misogyny. Among his first efforts was a
boycott of the clients of advertising giant Saatchi & Saatchi because of a spot
it produced for Wyeth FluMist.

In the ad, we see Mom laid up in bed, felled by the virus, and Dad in charge of
the household - much to the glee of the kids, who march off to school in a
snowstorm dressed as if for a luau. Alas, poor Dad can't manage his own
children.

Smaglick admits the boycott had little, if any, impact - Saatchi & Saatchi
declined to comment - and he won't say precisely how big his group is. "I don't
want our organization to be assigned its credibility or lack of credibility
based on numbers," he says.

On a Web site for the Men's Activism News Network, readers have compiled a list
of companies to boycott for their allegedly male-bashing ads. The list includes
perhaps the ultimate macho-man vehicle, the Hummer, which aired a spot showing
a woman behind the wheel and a tagline that read: "Threaten men in a whole new
way."

Imagine the fallout, a man said in a posting on MANN's Web site, if the roles
were reversed and men were encouraged to "threaten women in a whole new way."

It's a point well taken, says Matt Campbell, one of the site's administrators.
"To get a sense of why there is a group of men finding the state of affairs so
outrageous, just switch the gender roles for a minute and see if it would still
be funny. Imagine having a laugh track when a woman's genitals are attacked."

Ultimately, whether men and boys take the images to heart, whether it affects
how they feel about themselves, is debatable. But Paul Nathanson and Katherine
Young, authors of "Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in
Popular Culture," say advertising merely holds up a mirror.

"We do see a statistical picture that tells us men are in trouble," Young says.
"Their suicide rates are higher, their alcoholism rates are higher, they die
earlier than women, and boys are dropping out of high school at much higher
rates than girls are. The more negative imaging you get, the more it reinforces
this. Boys can say, 'If this is the way society is going to look at us, we'll
just act that way.'"


By KATE SANTICH
The Orlando Sentinel
Wednesday, Jul. 07 2004

FEMALE SERIAL MURDERERS

Female Serial Murderers

Egger (1) claims that "there are no known serial killers who are female" (p.348).

This is clearly not accurate. Newton (1993) has compiled an exhaustive accounting of 183 female murderers, finding that 70% meet the definition of a serial killer.

Victim-wise, these female serial killers showed a different profile than males: 45% killed family members, 26% murdered friends or acquaintances, 10% took the lives of those left in their care (wards, charges or patients), 19.5% were "mixed" predators, while only 11% murdered strangers. And while almost all male serial killers fall into the "motiveless" category, 35% of the females killed for profit, 28% due to mental illness (delusions or command hallucinations) and only 8% killed for "sadistic thrills". (About 9% of the documented female serial killers were motivated by drug trafficking, jealousy, mercy or religion, combined.) Method of killing followed the pattern for males outlined above.

From "Nurture-Born Killers: the Motivation and Personality Development of the Serial Killer", by Sean Wolf Hill; Fall 1994.

Female Serial Murderers
Name
Kills
Survivors
Victims
Time Span
Modus

Sara Aldrete
15/24/30/?
cops, drug dealers, college students, peasants
2 years
human sacrifice

Beverly Allitt
4
22
Children in hospital
58 days
Injection Lyda C. Ambrose -->

Susan Atkins
9 (20+)
random strangers
1 year
helter skelter

Kathleen Atkinson
4
patients

Margie Velma Barfield
4 (7)
husband, mother, fiancee
9 years
poison

Erszebet (Countess) Bathory
(650)
?
peasant girls
30 years
torture

Martha Beck
12 (20)
lonely women
2 years
poisoned, drowned, bludgeoned, strangled

Marie Alexandrine Becker
12
husband, lover, friends
4 years
poison

Betty Lou Beets
2
1
husbands
11 years
shot Grete Beier -->
Mary Flora Bell
2
1
playmates
10 weeks
strangled

Kate Bender
(50)
travellers
3 years
hammer

Marie Besnard
13
two husbands, parents, in-laws, cousins, neighbors
22 years
poison

Catherine Birnie
4(8)
1
rape victims
2 months
Strangled, stabbed, axed
Cecile Bombeck
3+

Elfriede Blauensteiner
5+
1+
husbands, lovers, neighbors
10 years
poisoned

Debra Denise Brown
8
1
rape victims
2 months
strangled, bludgeoned, shot
Mary Brunner
9 (20+)
random strangers
1 year
helter skelter

Judias Anna Lou Buenoano
3
1
two husbands and a son
9 years
poison

Carol M. Bundy
6 (50)
rape victims
1 year
shot, stabbed, strangled, decapitated

Susan Carson
3
friends
2 years
shot, stabbed, bludgeoned

Cynthia Coffman
4 (+)
rape/robbery victims
5 weeks
strangled

Mary Ann Cotton
(17+)
husbands, children, stepchildren, mother, sister-in-law
28 years
poison

Theresa Cross
2 (3)
daughters, possibly husband
shot, beaten

Faye Copeland
5
farm hands
3 years
shot

Daisy Louisa C. De Melker
3
two husbands and a son
9 years
poison

Minnie Dean
2 (3+)
?
babies (other women's)
?
smothered
Nannie Hazel Doss
10
children, husbands, sisters, mother
29 years
poison
Marti Enriqueta
6+
1
children (other women's)
?
cannibalism and witchcraft
Ellen Etheridge
4
stepchildren
4 months
poison
Christine Falling
6
infants in babysitting
2 years
smothered
Constance Fisher
6
children (hers)
13 years
drowned
Debbie Fornuto
6
children (hers)
suffocated
Caril Fugate
11
mom, dad, baby sister, strangers
10 days
shot, stabbed, choked
Mrs. Julius Fuzekos/Fazekas
7 (100)
1
husbands (other women's)
30 years
poison
Charlene Gallego
10
rape victims
2 years
shot, bludgeoned, tortured
Ann Gates
Tillie Gbrurek
5
1
four husbands, one neighbor
7 years
poison
Janie Lou Gibbs
5
husband, four children
2 years
poison
Kristen Gilbert
5+
2+
VA patients
injection
Amy Gilligan
9
5 husbands, 4 patients
13 years
poison
Delfina Gonzales
91+
prostitutes and johns
9 years
Maria de Jesus Gonzales
91+
prostitutes and johns
9 years
Gwendolyn Graham
5
5
female nursing home patients
4 months
suffocation
Ann Green
2 (?)
1
children (hers)
15 years
suffocation
Caroline Grills
4
2
family members, friend
poison
Maria Gruber
49 (300)
17+
elderly patients
6 years
injection, drowning
Belle Gunness
16 (49)
husbands, children, employees, suitors
12 years
poison, bludgeoning, decapitation
Anna Marie Hahn
5 (7)
2
elderly men
5 years +
poison
Audrey Marie Hilley
3 (4)
4
husband, daughter, mom-in-law, neighbor child
4 years
poison
Myra Hindley
5 (15)
rape victims
2 years
shot, strangled, stabbed, tortured
Karla Homolka
3 (?)
?
rape victims
2 years
strangled, drugged
Waneta E. Hoyt
5
children (hers)
6 years
suffocation
Helene Jegado
23+
9
sister, aunt, employers, fellow nuns, fellow servants
18 years
poison
Martha Ann Johnson
4
children (hers)
5 years
suffocation
Genene Jones
11 (46)
children (other women's)
4 years
injection
Linda Kesabian
9 (20+)
random strangers
1 year
helter skelter
Claudette Kibble
3
1
children
4 years
suffocation, drowning
Sharon Kinne
3
1
husband, lover's wife, motel pick-up
4 years
shot
Patricia Krenwinkel
9 (20+)
random strangers
1 year
helter skelter
Christa Lehman
4
husband, father-in-law, and at least two neighbors
2 years
poison
Irene Leidolf
49 (300)
17+
elderly patients
6 years
injection, drowning
Juliane Lipka
7 (100)
1
husbands (other women's)
15 years
poison
Diana Lumbrera
6
children (hers)
13 years
strangled and suffocated
Anjette Lyles
4
2 husbands, mother-in-law, daughter
6 years
poison
Sarah Makin
7+
babies
stabbed with knitting needles
Christine Malevre
7 (30)
elderly patients
probably injection
Rhonda Belle Martin
6 (8)
1
mother, 2 husbands, 3 (5) children
lifetime
poison
Stephanija Mayer
49 (300)
17+
elderly patients
6 years
injection, drowning
Carolyn McCrary
11 (22)
robbery/rape victims
10 months
shot
Virginia McGinnis
4
husband, mother, daughter
20 years
"accidents"
Alice Mitchell
(37)
babies (nurse)
starvation, neglect
Blanche Taylor Moore
5
1
2 husbands, father, mother-in-law, lover
23 years
poison
Patricia Moore
3
babies (sitter)
1 year
stranged, suffocated
Judith Ann Neelley
12 (15)
4
robbery/rape victims
1-3 years
shot, injected with drain cleaner
Marie Noe
8
children (hers)
19 years
smothering
Louisa Northcott
?
?
young boys
?
?
Susi Olah
7 (100)
1
husbands (other women's)
15 years
poison
Sandra Pankow
3
children (babysitting)
5 years
smothered
Bonnie Parker
12
?
Law men, robbery victims
2 years
shot Milka Pavlovich -->
Madame Alexe Popova
(300)
husbands (other women's)
29 years
poison
Dorothea Puente
9 (25)
tenants
2 years
poison
Terri Rachals
6 (9)
11
nursing home patients
2 years +
injection
Vera Renczi
35
husbands, lovers, son
?
?
Martha Rendell
3
1
stepchildren
1-2 years
hydrochloric acid
Amelia Sach
?
?
infants, adoption
?
poison
Antoinette Scieri
12 (?)
elderly patients
poison
Lydia Sherman
10(+)
?
3 husbands, 5 children, 2 stepchildren
poison
Mrs. Szabo
7 (100)
1
husbands (other women's)
15 years
poison Gloria Tannenbaum -->
Ginger Taylor [nee McCrary]
11 (22)
robbery/rape victims
10 months
shot
Bobbie Sue Terrell
12+
nursing home patients
2 weeks
injection
Marybeth Tinning
8
children (hers)
13 years
smothered
Jane Toppan
31 (100)
nursing patients
21 years
injection
Lydia Trueblood
6
1
four husbands, son, brother-in-law
4 years
poison
Debra Sue Tuggle
4
children (hers, fiance's)
8 years
suffocated, drowned
Lise Jane Turner
3
2 (6)
children (hers and others)
4 years
smothered
Leslie Van Houten
9 (20+)
random strangers
1 year
helter skelter
Maria Velten
5
two husbands, father, aunt, lover
17 years
poison
Louise Vermilyea
10
2 husbands, 3 children (hers), stepson, friends
18 years
poison Dorothea Waddingham -->
Waltraud Wagner
49 (300)
17+
elderly patients
6 years
injection, drowning
Rachel Wall (pirate)
1+
?
sailors
?
Annie Walters
?
?
infants, adoption
?
poison
Jeanne Weber
10+
children (hers and others)
4 years
strangled
Rosemary West
10 (18)
women, children, rape victims
16 years
Dorothy Williams
3
adult female 97, two elderly men
3 years
strangled, stabbed
Stella Williamson
5
infants, presumably hers
10 years
Martha Hasel Wise
3
(?)
mother, aunt, uncle
months
poison
Catherine May Wood
5
5
female nursing home patients
4 months
suffocation
Martha Woods
7
children (hers and others)
23 years
suffocation
Carol Aileen Wuornos
7+
2+
male strangers
1 year
shot
Lila Gladys Young
(100+)
babies (other women's)
19 years
neglect, starvation
Aida Noureddin Mohammed Abu Zeid
1
29
hospital patients
1 year +
injection
Anna Zwanziger
3+
?
rivals, employers and their families
poison

(1) Egger, Stephen A. (1984). A working definition of serial murder and the reduction of linkage blindness. Journal of Police Science and Administration, 12,3, 348-357.
(2) Newton, Michael. (1990). Hunting Humans: An Encyclopedia of Modern Serial Killers. Port Townsend, WA: Loompanics Unlimited.
(3) Newton, Michael. (1993). Bad Girls Do It: An Encyclopedia of Female Murderers. Port Townsend, WA: Loompanics Unlimited.


Female Serial Murderers

FEMINISM HAS MADE LIFE WORSE FOR MOST WOMEN

Women Who Make Things Worse For Other Women

Who is harmed more by the radical feminist creed: men or women? I have long believed that men are more victimized. But after reading Kate O'Beirne's recent book, Women Who Make the World Worse, I'm beginning to reconsider.

As editor of National Review Online, O'Beirne showcases her formidable research and writing skills in exposing how the feminist movement has polarized relations between the sexes and made life worse for most American women.

In my town, billboards feature a newly-engaged woman showing off her sparkling diamond ring, nearly shouting the words, "Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, YES!" Despite the fact that married women are healthier, happier, and more economically-secure than their single sisters, feminists are hell-bent on obliterating this bedrock institution.

Feminists want you to believe that the urge to conceive and nurture children is a patriarchal construction. Can you guess who came up with this gem? "Motherly love ain't everything it has been cracked up to be. To some extent it's a myth that men have created to make women think that they do this job to perfection."

Yep, that comes to us by way Ruth Bader Ginsburg, member of the U.S. Supreme Court.

And shame on all those stay-at-home moms who are shirking their civic responsibility to "contribute as professionals and community activists," according to University of Texas professor Gretchen Ritter. Worse, "Full-time mothering is also bad for children." Why? Ritter explains, "It teaches them that the world is divided by gender."

Child psychologist Sandra Scarr takes the argument farther, claiming a child's desire to be with his mother is actually a psychiatric disorder. Scarr calls it EMA Syndrome -- exclusive maternal attachment syndrome.

Ms. O'Beirne takes on the notion that women should delay childbearing until after their careers are established. She cites research that among women earning more than $100,000, nearly half -- 49% -- are childless. So much for having it all.

But feminists are not satisfied to merely lay a guilt trip on women who are contemplating marriage, motherhood, and child-rearing. They patronize and insult the intelligence of women by making the most ludicrous of claims.

Like the old chestnut about the gender wage gap. Feminists go around cherry-picking wage statistics and then claim that society undervalues women's work.

O'Beirne shows little patience for such loopy logic. "They sell women short. They hold that women aren't smart enough and tough enough to flourish when given an equal chance to compete with men," O'Beirne thunders.

Then there's the bogus statistic that men commit 95% of all domestic violence. As a result, former women's studies professor Daphne Patai notes that "years of exposure to feminist-promoted scare statistics have succeeded in imbuing many young women with a foreboding sense of living under the constant threat of predatory men."

And that's promoting female self-empowerment?

There's retired Air Force brigadier general Wilma Vaught who argued for moving women into direct combat: "There's been an acceptance of the fact that women...are in harms way and they are being killed." The families of the nearly 40 female soldiers killed in Iraq no doubt would find those words consoling.

The NRO editor goes on to quote this nihilistic statement by representative Maxine Waters (D-CA) at last year's March for Women's Lives: "I have to march because my mother could not have an abortion." And Ms. Waters is supposed to be a role model for smart, ambitious women?

And sometimes rad-fems come across as vindictive shrews. A female dean at Vassar College who had this say about men falsely accused of rape: "They have of a lot of pain, but it is not a pain that I would necessarily have spared them. I think it ideally initiates a process of self-exploration."

So after 30-plus years of liberation feminista-style, are American women better off? O'Beirne has serious doubts.

Now, thanks to the Sisterhood's mantra that men are redundant, many of the nation's most eligible bachelors -- 22%, to be exact -- have turned their back on marriage, leaving millions of women desperate to find a good man who's willing to commit.

As a result of affirmative action programs, professional women have been put under suspicion that they owe their position to something other than merit.

And the very fabric of maternal virtue has been indelibly stained by the feminist message that "the only thing a woman can do with a child is abort."

Throughout her 200-page exposé, Kate O'Beirne shows how feminists have used deception, manipulation, intimidation, and old-fashioned propaganda to victimize men and women alike.
Women Who Make the World Worse -- it's the gutsy and shocking must-read of the politically incorrect for 2006.

January 11, 2006 by Carey Roberts

URL: http://www.ifeminists.net/introduction/editorials/2006/0111roberts.html

QUESTIONS TO ASK BATTERED WOMEN'S SHELTERS WORKERS

Transparency and Accountability

This section will address several questions that need to be asked of shelter services, and never seem to be asked at all.

Often, a spokesperson will make a statement such as: "We served 22000 people last year."

The question that should be asked is, "Does this number represent an unduplicated number of individuals, or is this the number of service units provided?"

If it is a number of service units, then the same people will be counted multiple times unless the agency has some procedure for restricting use of their service to once a year. However, in a shelter, a service unit generally refers to one night in one bed, and it is doubtful that kind of restriction would apply.

It is common practice in even the most open of social service agencies to use their number of service units as "people" for an occasional newpaper story, but when it comes to more-serious matters such as newsletters for their stakeholders, or reporting their activities to various government or funding agencies, the numbers are explained so a true picture of the organization can be seen. These organizations want to be as clear and open as possible.

Domestic violence services seem to think the rules don't apply to them, and so the service unit becomes their usual number of "people" for all except the most critical of functions. I've seen reports issued here in Arizona claiming that a number in the high five figures of women and children were using shelters on any given day, with a like number turned away for lack of beds.

Since there are only four million people in the entire state, it was obvious to me they were using their service unit figure in order to "pump up their numbers." Then they compounded the error by using that figure to apply to everyone. According to this figure, 1 in 7 AZ families were experiencing domestic violence. Those "1 in x" figures are rarely arrived at based on any realistic computation, and are always to be considered suspect.

The other day, I heard a PSA on TV that said, "1 in 5 children are victimized online." Not one in five children who use computers, one in five of all children., which is not realistic to even consider.

Another question would be, "What kinds of services do you have for male victims?" If they are being honest they would admit they don't and never will. Then if you ask what happens if a male victim presents himself, see what kind of answer you get. They may claim there are services elsewhere. In that case, check to see these services exist. In four years of activism for un-served people, I have never found these services that are claimed to be elsewhere. Some agencies go so far as to advertise nonexistent services, secure in the knowledge they can be explained away in any number of ways, should anyone be so unfortunate as to need them.

Sometimes a spokesperson will say their services are "open to anyone," in an attempt to appear unbiased, and offer a tiny number of male victims and female abusers. A good question then can be, "What kind of outreach do you do for individuals other than female victims?" You will most likely find that "open to anyone" does not mean they are prepared to actively pursue any outreach or service expansion.

One question I have always wanted to ask is, "Why is it so important to insist only women are victims, when pure logic and even your own statistics, in some cases, suggest a quite different picture?" Most non-profit organizations are usually quite interested in expanding services and looking at ways to help the un-served and under-served. Yet when it comes to DV programs, they do not want to even consider change.

Here's the final one, and it's a biggie: "What solution other than divorce or moving away has been considered?"

SOURCE: DesertLight Journal

ANTI-FATHER BIAS BY NATIONAL ORGANIZATION OF WOMEN

Fathers Bear the Brunt of Gender Bias inFamily

The National Organization for Women's recently released Family Court Report 2002 claims that family courts are "wrought with gender bias" against women. However, the respondents to the survey upon which the report is based were not chosen at random, but were instead self-selected from among those whom NOW calls its "constituents." If one selects a survey's respondents, one can make the survey show almost anything. For this reason, these types of Self-selected Listener Opinion Polls, commonly known as SLOPs, are viewed as junk social science by serious researchers.

NOW's report sounds the alarm on women's "loss of custody through gender bias" but the vacuity of this claim can be demonstrated by examining how rarely courts grant custody to fathers in contested cases.

For example, a Stanford study of 1,000 divorced couples selected at random found that divorcing mothers were awarded sole custody four times as often as divorcing fathers in contested custody cases. A study of all divorce-custody decrees in Arlington County, Virginia over an 18 month period found that no father was given sole or even joint custody unless the mother agreed to it. According to Frank Bishop, the former director of the Virginia Division of Child Support Enforcement, almost 95% of custody cases in Virginia were won by mothers.

An Ohio study published in Family Advocate found that fathers seeking sole custody obtain it in less than 10% of cases, and a Utah study conducted over 23 years found similar results.

According to the 2000 Census Bureau report, mothers comprise 85% of all custodial parents.

Even the 80% to 95% maternal preference documented by these studies and others understates family court discrimination against fathers by identifying many coerced child custody arrangements as "uncontested." The vast majority of divorces involving children are initiated by women, and women are usually granted temporary custody of the children. Judges are reluctant to switch children from the custody of one parent to another. Fathers, left to fight an uphill battle to gain custody and often out of both money and hope, sometimes give up. Others spend their life's savings trying to obtain joint physical or sole custody so they can remain a part of their children's lives. Devastated financially and with little hope of winning, they often sign consent orders granting custody to mothers. In both of these common scenarios, the child custody arrangement is "uncontested."

NOW has attempted to obscure this anti-father family court bias by claiming "according to several studies, when there is a custody dispute, fathers win custody in the majority of disputed cases." In other words, men don't get custody because they don't want it. Yet NOW's claim, proclaimed in its 1996 National Conference Resolution attacking the fathers' rights movement, and again in Family Court Report 2002, is without merit. All three of the sources NOW cites used survey pools which were either nonrandom or in which contested and uncontested custody cases were lumped together.

Once custody is lost divorced dads are often at the mercy of both custodial mothers and the family courts. Divorced dads' complaints include: blocked visitation and unenforced visitation orders; "move away" spouses who permit or even use geography as a method of driving noncustodial parents out of their children's lives; acceptance by the courts of false and/or uncorroborated accusations as a basis for denying custody or even contact between parent and child; rigid, excessive, and often punitive child support awards; and burdensome legal costs.

The presence (or absence) of a father in a child's life is the largest factor in predicting whether a child will graduate high school, attend college, become involved in crime or drugs, or get pregnant before age 18. The greatest and least recognized force behind America's epidemic of fatherlessness is the way courts allow custodial mothers to drive fathers out of their children's lives.

The solution to the problem is shared parenting, which creates equality between divorcing couples by replacing the option of sole physical custody, which occurs in the vast majority of custody cases, with the presumption of joint legal and physical custody.

If divorcing parents are unable to agree on a shared parenting plan, the courts would order a plan which would afford both parents equal physical time and decision-making power. Children gain from shared parenting because it allows them to retain the ongoing emotional, physical, and financial support of both parents.

The National Organization for Women has lobbied hard against shared parenting legislation and today is the main obstacle to equality in family court. Yet during the 1960s and 1970s many of NOW's leaders, including former president Karen DeCrow, were sympathetic to shared parenting as part of their efforts to erase all gender inequalities. Family Court Report 2002 again reveals just how far NOW has drifted from this admirable goal.

By Dianna Thompson and Glenn Sacks

This column first appeared in Insight magazine (8/19/02, posted 7/29/02).

URL: http://www.glennsacks.com/fathers_bear_the_pf.htm

BOY VICTIMS OF SEXUAL ABUSE

Boys Can Be / And Are Victims of Abuse

Lately, I have been having more men come forward and tell me about being molested as children. These men are from all backgrounds and levels of society. But the common factor is they have never told anyone else about this secret from their past.

I have done some research. Statistics show approximately one out of every four girls will be molested before her 16th birthday. But those same statistics show one out of every six boys will also be sexually abused before their 16th birthday.

Why don't male victims of sexual abuse come forward and tell?

Male survivors have the same feelings of anger, fear, shame, embarrassment, guilt and confusion. Remember, these are children we are talking about who have been abused by a trusted adult.

So what are some of the reasons why most male victims keep quiet?

Society tells us boys are tough. In this day and age, boys are not supposed to express their feelings. If they are hurt, (physically or emotionally) they are not supposed to show it. So if they are sexually assaulted by either a male or a female, no one must know. The victim is ashamed and they can not appear weak to their peers.

Being abused by a man means you will become a homosexual. Even though there has never been any correlation revealed that show sexual experiences at an early age will determine a persons sexual preference, male victims are confused about why it happened to them and what it means about who they attract.

If a female sexually abuses a boy, it must be the boys fault. Many females (mother, step-mother, aunt, older sister, teacher, baby sitter) will coerce or use their position of power to force a boy to have sex with them. To be forced to have sex with someone is rape. It does not matter what the circumstances are. It is never the fault of the child just because the person doing the abusing is a female.

People will think you will become a child molester. Many victims, when they are grown up, believe they will be looked at as a potential molester rather than a victim. This is again caused by the way society reacts to male survivors. But this is NOT TRUE. The vast majority of male survivors do not molest children. They do not become molesters.

What can you do if your son, spouse or any male acquaintance comes forward and confesses to being abused?

*Do not judge the person.
*Give caring support.
*Gently push them towards treatment and help.
*Try to give a sense of "family rallying around the survivor" to give them the confidence to talk about it.

The last point I want to make about men who sexually abuse children is the difference between a homosexual male and a pedophile.

Homosexuality is a sexual preference for someone of the same sex. It is not a preference for children.

A pedophile has a sexual preference for children. It usually does not matter to them if that child is a boy or a girl. They want to have sex with a child. Pedophiles are very dangerous to society.

Men can live healthy lives and survive after being a victim of childhood sexual abuse. I know it can be done because I have met many such men. The road will be difficult just like it is for a female survivor. The same demons are present as well as many additional ones. But with proper help and a strong support system it can happen.


INCEST, SEXUAL ABUSE OR PHYSICAL ABUSE IS NEVER THE CHILD'S FAULT!

URL: http://www.twist-of-fate.com/MaleAbuse.html

VICTIMIZATION OF MALE CHILDREN AND TEENS

The Invisible Boy:
Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens

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Table of Contents

Introduction: Opening the Door to Male Victims

Why the Need for a Male-Inclusive Perspective?

Why the Need to Re-Vision Male Victimization?

Purpose of The Invisible Boy


Chapter 1. Prevalence: A Many-Sided Story

Sexual Abuse of Boys and Teen Males

Sibling-on-Sibling Sexual Abuse

Sexual Harassment

Male Prison Rape and Sexual Assault

Physical Abuse, Neglect and Emotional Maltreatment

Sibling-on-Sibling Physical Abuse

Corporal Punishment

Community, School and Institution-based Violence

Suicide

Street Youth

Prostitution

Children with Disabilities

Professional Response to Male Victims as a Factor in Determining Prevalence

Media Images of Violence Toward Boys and Young Men

Chapter 2. Perpetrators of Male Victimization

Sexual Abuse

Teen Perpetrators

Strangers vs. Acquaintances

Female Perpetrators

Dynamics of Female-Perpetrated Abuse

Physical Abuse and Neglect

Corporal Punishment

Chapter 3. Effects of Victimization on Males

Sexual Abuse

Physical Abuse, Corporal Punishment and Neglect

The Consequences of "Male Sexual Licence"

Chapter 4. Implications

Implications for Research

Implications for Assessment, Treatment and Program Development

A Repeating Cycle of Violence?

Implications for Staff Development and Program Supervision

The Search for a More Inclusive Framework for Analysis

The Messages We Give to Male Victims

How Would Things Be Different if We Acknowledged Male Victims? .

Beginning with Ourselves as Adults

Resources and Bibliography

Acknowledgments

The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens was prepared by the Canadian Foster Family Association (CPFA) on behalf of the National Clearinghouse on Family Violence of Health Canada.

The CFFA would particularly like to thank those who assisted in the preparation of the manuscript: Judy Urquhart, Len Kushnier, Veronica Marsman, Philip Quigley; the Family Violence Prevention Unit and the National Clearinghouse on Family Violence of Health Canada for their support to the project; and the project staff, Dr. Fred Mathews and John Meston.

Linda Lelièvre President
Canadian Foster Family Association

Introduction

Opening the Door to Male Victims

"Since we are sometimes compelled against our will by persons of high rank to perform the operation, by compression is thus performed: children, still of a tender age, are placed in a vessel of hot water, and then when the parts are softened in the bath, the testicles are to be squeezed with the fingers until they disappear. "
Paulus Aegineta
1st Century A.D.


This opening quote from Sander Breiner's book, Slaughter of the Innocents: Child Abuse Through the Ages and Today, is a stark reminder that the story of male child abuse is an old one. The passage is an instruction to those who wanted to get around a law passed by the Roman emperor Domitian prohibiting the castration of boys who were subsequently placed in brothels or sold for "buggering." At the turn of the twentieth century, boys were routinely circumcised without anesthetic as a "treatment" for things such as hyperactivity and masturbating (De Mause, 1988). However, anyone who believes that this- inexcusable treatment of male children or youth is a thing of the past should consider the following:

An episode of a comedy television program about summer camp features the sexual abuse of a "canteen boy" by an adult camp counsellor.
A Canadian newspaper advertises a board game, "101 Uses for a Severed Penis."
Another television program portrays mother/son incest in a comedy sketch about phone sex.
A newspaper article about a mother who left her 11-year-old son tied and gagged in a closet quotes a social worker at the trial as saying, the boy had been "very prone to lying, stealing, and manipulating, was disruptive in class, and was generally an unpleasant kid."
What these few examples illustrate are some of the themes that will be explored in the pages of this document; namely, the existence of a double standard in the care and treatment of male victims, and the invisibility and normalization of violence and abuse toward boys and young men in our society.

Despite the fact that over 300 books and articles on male victims have been published in the last 25 to 30 years, boys and teen males remain on the periphery of the discourse on child abuse.

Few workshops about males can be found at most child abuse conferences and there are no specialized training programs for clinicians. Male-centred assessment is all but non-existent and treatment programs are rare. If we are talking about adult males, the problem is even greater. A sad example of this was witnessed recently in Toronto. After a broadcast of The Boys of St. Vincent, a film about the abuse of boys in a church-run orphanage, the Kids' Help Phone received over 1 000 calls from distraught adult male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. It is tragic in a way no words can capture that these men had no place to turn to other than a children's crisis line.

The language we use in the current discourse on violence and abuse masks, minimizes or renders invisible certain realities for male victims. Terms such as "family violence" have become co-terminus with "violence toward women," particularly on the part of husbands, fathers or other adult male figures. Male teens, boys, male seniors, male victims of sibling-on-sibling violence and female abusers disappear in this term.

Canada lags far behind other Western democracies in the study of male victims and their male and female abusers. In fact, among the large and growing number of research studies on male victims only a small number are Canadian. Social policy development, public education, treatment programs and research funding, and the evolution of a more inclusive discourse on interpersonal violence that reflects the male experience are all long overdue.

Why the Need for a Male-Inclusive Perspective?

A "male-inclusive" perspective on violence and victimization must be, of necessity, dynamic and evolutionary, since male victims are only just beginning to speak out about their experiences. As they do, their stories will continue to challenge many of our long-held and status quo assumptions about abuse victims and perpetrators. It is important to keep in mind that male victims are not a homogeneous group, and over time it is likely that a number of perspectives will evolve. Heterosexual, gay and bisexual, Native/Aboriginal, disabled/challenged, and visible and cultural minority males will all add different aspects to the story of male victimization.

There are, however, four basic components to the concept of "male-inclusive." First, the need to articulate a male-centred point, or points, of view, which reflect the diversity of men and boys in the Canadian population. Second, the need for male victims to search for balance as they struggle to heal the emotional, physical, mental and spiritual aspects of their lives. Third, the need to honour and protect female victims' gains and acknowledge the contributions women have made in breaking the silence about violence and abuse. Fourth, the need to evolve a vision of combining both males' and females' stories into a coherent and inclusive perspective that all of us will be able to own and use in the struggle to reduce and eliminate interpersonal violence and abuse in our society. Sadly, as male victims' stories reveal, we are still a long way from realizing any of these goals.

Male victims report great pain, frustration and some anger at not seeing their stories reflected in the public discourse on violence and abuse. Several large-scale Canadian studies about interpersonal violence conducted in the past several years have reported the findings pertaining to only female victims. Many academic papers written about victims of violence purport to be "balanced," yet typically bring only a faint male "voice" to the analysis. From a conceptual standpoint, many also make the mistake of accepting and using, uncritically, a woman-centred-only model of victimization. Male victims also find much of this work dehumanizing and dismissive of their experiences. They feel many writers and thinkers in the field have delineated the boundaries of the discourse on violence and abuse - boundaries that leave males out.

Male victims frequently find that therapists, counsellors or other types of caregivers trained with female-centred models of victimization are unable to help them. Consequently, they are likely to simply abandon therapy, leaving unexplored many of the issues relating to their victimization experience and to their deeper healing.

Male victims, like female victims before them, have encountered their share of critics and detractors, people who refuse to believe them, ignore prevalence statistics, minimize the impact of abuse, appropriate and deny males a voice, or dismiss male victimization as a "red herring." When prevalence statistics are given for male victimization, it is common to hear the response that the vast majority of abusers of males are other males, a belief which is simply not true. This comment is usually intended to frame male victimization as a "male problem." It is also insensitive and perceived by male survivors as being victim-blaming. While challenges and criticisms to concepts and theories are valid, and an important part of the evolution and development of any field, denial, minimization and silencing is harmful, abusive and damaging to any victim.

In many respects, male victims are where female victims were 25 years ago. Most of us forget the enormous opposition the women's movement encountered as women began to organize and claim a voice to speak against violence and name their abusers/offenders. The services and supports that exist presently for women were hard won and yet are still constantly at risk of losing their funding. By comparison, there really is no organized male victims "movement" per se. Males, generally, are not socialized to group together the way women do, to be intimate in communication or to see themselves as caregivers for other males. In short, much of what male victims need to do to organize a "movement" requires them to overcome many common elements of male socialization, all of which work against such a reality ever happening.

Why the Need to Re-Vision Male Victimization?

The subtitle of this work, "Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens, " extends an invitation to the public and professionals alike, to "look again" and "re-vise" their knowledge and understanding with respect to violence and abuse, and to make it inclusive of a male perspective. On the face of the evidence presented in the pages of this report, the invitation is compelling.

Much of the current thinking and discourse, both public and professional, about abuse and interpersonal violence is based on a woman-centred point of view. This is neither right nor wrong, good nor bad, but rather the result of who has been doing the advocacy. However, as a result of this history, victims have a female face, perpetrators a male face. Because of this image of perpetrators as having a male face, violence in our society has become "masculinized" and is blamed exclusively on "men" and "male socialization." Although there is without question a male gender dimension to many forms of violence, especially sexual violence, simple theories of male socialization are inadequate to explain why the vast majority of males are not violent.

Violence is even blamed on the male hormone testosterone. The irony in this argument is not lost on male victims. While women have been struggling to get out from under the stigma that they are at the mercy of their hormones, males are being accused of being at the mercy of testosterone.

Male victims walk a fine line between wanting to be heard and validated, to be supportive of female victims and to be pro-woman, while challenging assumptions they feel are biased stereotypes. Their challenges to some of these stereotypes are often met with accusations that they are misogynists, part of a "backlash" against feminism, or have a hidden agenda to undermine women's gains. If any of these accusations are true, they must be confronted by all of us. But if they are based only on the fear that recognition of males as victims will threaten women's gains, then that is the issue we should be discussing right up front, not minimizing male victims' experiences in a competition to prove who has been harmed the most. Nonetheless, it is important for all of us to recognize that it may be difficult for many women to listen to male victims' stories until they feel safe in this regard.

Sadly, male victims and their advocates risk a lot to challenge the status quo and experience much pressure to remain silent. It is ironic that the pressure males feel to remain silent replicates, at a social level, the same patterns of silencing, denial and minimization they experienced at the hands of their offenders. If we do not face the fact that we need to heal the "gendered wounds" of both women and men, then we will compromise the search for gender peace.

Finally, and perhaps the most important reason to re-vision our understanding, is because men and teen males are not, in any substantial way, joining women in the struggle to end all forms of interpersonal-violence. Part of the reason for this may be because males do not see their own stories reflected in public discussions about violence and abuse. If one were to rely solely on the media to convey the male experience, few stories would be known beyond the more sensational cases involving several church-run orphanages or provincial training schools. It is not uncommon to hear male students express resentment toward high school anti-violence curricula that presumes them to be abusers, harassers, rapists and sexual assaulters in waiting. Indeed, it is difficult to feel part of a collective social movement against violence when one's own experiences are dismissed, excluded or minimized. It is evident from even a casual review of this material that much of it contains biased stereotypes and unchallenged assumptions about "male anger," "male aggression" and "male sexuality." All too often, these writers take as a starting point a caricature of the worst imaginable elements of "masculinity" and assume it applies to all male persons.

As males begin to tread upon the path broken by women, they are summoning the courage to bring their own voices to the public and professional discourse about violence and abuse. If we want males to engage in true dialogue, then we have to be open to hearing their criticisms, their experiences, their pain.

Purpose of The Invisible Boy

The Invisible Boy is intended for a wide readership. Readers may find some of the issues or research presented in the document new or surprising, maybe even a little controversial.

Others may find no surprises at all, but instead a confirmation of what they have experienced, observed themselves or believed all along. In any case, it is perhaps most important to see the document, not as a definitive statement of the male experience (we are too early in the struggle for that), but rather as a "snapshot in time" of some of the controversies, challenges, knowledge gaps and unexplored issues pertaining to the male experience of victimization. If it spurs the reader to further explore the literature, encourages the therapeutic community to expand its knowledge base about victims and perpetrators, or widens public debate on abuse to make it more inclusive, then it will have achieved its purpose.

Readers would be well advised not to read into the pages of The Invisible Boy any diminishment of women's experience with respect to violence and abuse. Unimaginable numbers of women and girls are harmed by violence every day in Canada. Women's stories need to be heard, believed and respected without denial or minimization. We must resist attempts to place male and female victims into a competition for resources or credibility. We can no longer afford the divisiveness along gender lines that permeates discussions about male and female victims' experiences. If we are to advance the anti-violence movement at all in Canada, we have to move more toward "gender reconciliation" and away from the bullying of one another that passes for advocacy in many public discussions.

Ideally, male and female victims' stories should be told side by side so that we may be better able to observe and understand how inextricably intertwined their experiences are. However, such a task is beyond the scope of the present project. Because their experiences are poorly understood, underreported, largely unacknowledged and outside much of the public and professional discourse, The Invisible Boy will focus primarily on males and bring together in one place many of the strands of male victims' experiences.

Many questions remain unanswered. Why is it that Canada, a country that prides itself on being a compassionate and just society, lags behind other countries in advocacy for male victims? Why has the media refused to give equal coverage to male victimization issues? Why do we consistently fail to support adult male victims? Why do we support a double standard when it comes to the care and treatment of male victims? Perhaps the simplest answer to all the above is the fact that much of what constitutes male victimization is invisible to us all, especially male victims themselves. The Invisible Boy will explore these and other issues in the following pages.

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WOMEN ARE THE MOST COMMON ABUSERS OF CHILDREN

Double-Standard Treatment for Child Abusers

Heather Thomas of Fairfax, VA was arrested last week in the shaking death of her 6-day-old granddaughter. On Christmas Day Valerie Kennedy held her son in a tub of scalding water as punishment, causing his death. A few days later Genevieve Silva was arrested in Oklahoma on child rape charges for luring a high school student to run away from home.

Chances are you didn't read about these incidents in your local newspaper. Because when a man commits abuse, it seems the story is splashed all over the front page. But when the perpetrator is a member of the fairer sex, the story is relegated to the bottom of the Police Report on page C9.

Each year the federal Administration for Children and Families surveys child protective service (CPS) agencies around the country to spot the latest trends in child abuse. And according to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System, women are the most common abusers of children.

In 2003, females, usually mothers, represented 58% of perpetrators of child abuse and neglect, with men composing the remaining cases. In that same year an estimated 1,500 children died of abuse or neglect. In 31% of those cases, the perpetrator was the mother acting alone, compared to 18% of fathers acting alone.

Then there's the scandal of Dumpster babies. In 1998, 105 newborn infants were discovered abandoned in public places. One-third of those babies were found dead.

In a civilized society that makes adoption services widely-available, that practice should have been condemned as unconscionable and wrong. But instead of prosecuting the abandoners, we accommodated to the societal imperative to provide choices to women no matter the moral consequences. So we passed laws to establish "safe havens."

Under New York law, mothers can now anonymously drop off their infants up to five days old. But if she later has second thoughts, not to worry. She can come back and reclaim the child up to 15 months later.

That satisfaction-guaranteed-or-your-money-back offer might work at a Macy's handbag sale, but that's not how a moral society treats its most vulnerable members.

Patricia Pearson has written a blockbuster book called, When She Was Bad: Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence. Pearson documents repeated examples of violent women who draw their Get-Out-of-Jail-Free card by claiming PMS, battered woman's syndrome, or postpartum depression.

Remember Andrea Yates who admitted to drowning her five boys in a bathtub? Of course the National Organization for Women rushed to her defense, claiming that postpartum blues justified the serial murder. And two weeks ago Texas 1st Court of Appeals ruled that her conviction should be reversed.

Then there's the problem of women, usually female teachers, who seduce and deflower teenage boys. Look how the media sanitizes the issue. Reporters trivialize the incident using clinical phrases such as "sexual contact," or worse envelope the story in a snickering "didn't-he-get-lucky" tone.

I once knew a teenage boy who was raped by his older sister's girlfriend during a holiday visit to his parent's home. Ten years later, he was still devastated by the incident. Of course he never reported the assault, no one would have taken him seriously.

When these cases go to trial, the double standard persists. As CNN's Nancy Grace plaintively asks, "Why is it when a man rapes a little girl, he goes to jail, but when a woman rapes a boy, she had a breakdown?"

And shame on reporters who use limp clichés to excuse the inexcusable. Like the story about a New Orleans mom who stuffed her 3-month-old son in the clothes dryer and hit the On button. This was the feeble explanation that the Times-Picayune offered in its December 8 edition: "Murder Suspect 'Was Trying her Best.'"

That condescending headline brings to mind the Solomonic words of columnist Kathryn Jean Lopez: "There are mental-health issues in many of these cases, obviously, but regardless, a society can and must say loud and clear: 'That's wrong. That's evil. That can never happen again.'"

To which I say, "Amen."

In radio talk shows and internet bulletin boards around the nation, Americans' ire has reached the boiling point over female child abusers who are treated with reverential deference by the media and our legal system.

As long as we tolerate this gender double-standard, the problem will fester and grow. And our children will continue to be at risk.


January 18, 2006
by Carey Roberts, iFeminists

URL: http://www.ifeminists.net/introduction/editorials/2006/0118roberts.html

LIST OF DEMANDS BY MEN

A PARTIAL LIST OF DEMANDS BY MEN

Protecting the rights of BOYS

1. Provide DNA testing of every child at birth before a man's name as the father goes onto the certificate of birth. Every child has a right to know his or her parentage. Every man has a right to know his child.

2. Stop the sexual torture and mutilation of baby boys, Male Genital Mutilation, (MGM). Currently over 1,000,000 baby boys are sexually tortured and maimed in the US each year. Boys deserve equal justice under the law. Men have an unalienable right to our whole body. We demand criminal prosecution of sexual child abusers who mutilate little children's sex organs.

3. Summarily dismiss justice system officials who refuse to prosecute child abusers based on the sex of the child being abused. Sexually torturing, maiming, or otherwise abusing a boy is equally bad as abusing a girl, and we demand equal protection for boys under the law. Discrimination against boys by public officials, ignoring the abuse of boys, or failure to prosecute criminal offenses against boys constitutes malfeasance of office and dereliction of duty. Abusing a boy does not excuse violence against a child.

4. End current systematic discrimination against boys in public school enrollment, discipline, and advancement.

5. Make schools safe for boy's natural rambunctiousness. Provide class and educational situations that allow movement, exercise, excitement and other natural boyish behavior. End discriminatory punishment of boys in schools for boyish behavior. End all discriminatory corporal punishment of boys.

6. Provide boys with active games and not passive TV watching, etc., in preschool, in public schools, and after school.

7. End the massive drugging of boys who won't sit still in long boring female structured classes. End the "Ritalin kid" drugging and destruction of a currently estimated 35% of normal boys. Being an active boy does not make a child psychotic, disturbed or "hyperactive."

8. Provide equal number of men teachers in schools for role models and men's guidance. Restructure educational recruiting practices and prejudicial accusations of men who teach to encourage more men to be teachers of our children.

9. Establish apprenticeship and mentor programs for young men for whom trades are more appropriate than college. The current college preparation school curriculum is not appropriate for many boys, and amounts to a prison for many young men.

10. Make public education through the 12th grade available to all who want to be educated regardless of their age. School dropouts who come back and 10th graders who only read at 6th grade level deserve to be enrolled in 6th grade level reading classes regardless of their age or social status.

11. The basic human rights of children include their right of access to both of their parents. All divorce decrees must consider the child's rights as a primary concern. The child's interest can not be heard in "family" court or any other court when the child is not represented by adequate legal counsel. A court decision for custody by either parent violates the child's inalienable human right to the other parent.

12. Recognize and enforce a child's fundamental human right to his or her father. The father is the most beneficial parent in a child's life after age 7. Depriving any child of his father is hurtful to the child. Deliberately depriving a child of his father needs to be legally recognized and prosecuted as criminal child abuse.


Protecting the rights of FATHERS

13. Support and recognize marriage as the age-old union of a man with one (or more in some cultures) women for the creation of children and family. The society has a legitimate purpose in supporting the production and education of the next generation, and marriage of a woman to a man is the way that society encourages and supports children families.

14. Recognize the husband and father's traditional role as head of the household. End all forms of government interference, criticism, review, and police or judicial oversight of a husband's decisions regarding his wife, children and household.

15. End prosecution of fathers for kidnapping of minor children. Fathers have a fundamental human right to their child. It is not possible to kidnap one's own child. Pardon and release all men previously convicted of this faux crime.

16. End government interference with fathers who live other countries and stop government support of the international smuggling of children to take them away from their fathers. Fathers have a fundamental right to live in their own country and to raise their children according to the customs and religion of their homeland.

17. Recognize that a man's responsibility to his child is to support a child by providing food at his dinner table, a place to sleep in his home, clothing, education, and generally for the child's needs. Fathers take responsibility for the child. No man ought to be required by divorce or custody law to do more than to support his child.

18. End the social slavery of men masquerading as the failed feminist social experiment called "absentee child support." It is a form of slavery of men not related to supporting children. Sending money to pay a woman for breaking up a family is not supporting a child.

19. End debtor's prisons and other punitive measures against men for not supporting women.

20. Recognize women's full co-equal right and responsibility for the support of themselves and their children. If a child is not being supported the mother is fully as responsible as the man.

21. Adopt laws that recognize and protect men's equal rights to family planning and all other decisions affecting our future children, including decisions about abortion, abandonment and adoption of our children.

22. Provide constructive and effective Rites of Passage for men. Honor and bless young men coming into manhood. Acknowledge and appreciate older men as they become elders, sages, mentors or wise men.

23. Fully and equally fund research into birth control pills and other options for men. Recognize the co-equal needs of men for family planning options. End the almost total discrimination against men in research and development of family planning options that has persisted over the past century.


Protecting the rights of MEN in health care.

24. Develop and provide health care for men in a manner appropriate for men. The current medical process, waiting rooms, subjugation, etc., has been shown to be psychologically appropriate for women but unsuitable and inappropriate for men. Lack of appropriate medical process and treatment significantly contributes to the shorter lives of men. Men now receive only about 25% of health care in the United States.

25. Ensure that mental health services appropriate for men are widely available. Men now receive only about 5% of all mental health service, none of which is designed for men. The lack of availability of appropriate mental health service greatly contributes to the staggering loss of men's lives by suicide.

26. Eliminate discrimination by government, courts, and other agencies against men who receive emotional or mental health treatment.

27. Address the huge loss of life of young men by suicide by providing appropriate psychological research, counseling, self esteem enhancement, improvement of life options, and other programs.


Protect the rights of HUSBANDS and families.

28. Where domestic violence (DV) shelters remain, provide equally funded domestic violence (DV) shelters and services for battered men, and ensure that men are no more likely to be accused and arrested for DV than women.

29. Provide shelters and programs to protect abused boys funded and staffed proportionally to the significantly greater number of boys currently subjected to abuse in the female headed single parent households.

30. End sexist propaganda about DV. All DV awareness programs must show as many men victims as female victims, and as many female batterers as men batterers. End police or court interference with a husband's legitimate control of his family and household.

31. End the "child protection" services that assume men to be villains if anyone suspects child abuse. A home with a father is statistically the safest place for a child. End government oversight of a father's legitimate administration of his family.

32. Stop the actions of so called Child Protective Services when they attack fathers and separate families without compelling interest such as criminal conviction for child abuse. End punitive administrative decisions against men for administering discipline to unruly children. A father's guidance is almost always better for the children than the badly misandrist decisions now being rendered by badly misandrist CPS officials.

33. End the many financial incentives that reward woman for breaking up families and divorcing husbands. End unearned claims on the husband's property. Stop alimony, child support, and other forms of indentured servitude of men. Stop government programs that benefit and pay divorced women with children. Make all government programs for children equally available to fathers with children. End tax penalties for marriage and government payments for divorce.

34. Stop emotionally rewarding women who destroy families. Establish that a wife who leaves her husband has no right to break up the family and take the children from their home. Require that the parent who leaves a family or breaks it up by filing for divorce must be legally presumed to leave behind the family home and the children.

35. Recognize that when an adulterous wife bears the bastard child of another man she has broken her former marriage and formed another marriage. When a husband finds out through DNA testing or otherwise that his wife's child is not his, he may declare the marriage ended by the wife's adultery. In this event he should retain full custody of his children and ownership of all of the community property including rings, jewelry, or other gifts that she was given as his wife. An adulteress with a bastard child should be able to take only her clothing, toiletries, and her bastard(s).

36. Fully investigate wives and mothers whose husband or child dies of unknown causes such as heart failure, chronic illness, SIDS, or other symptoms which could mask poison or suffocation. Routinely require autopsies that screen for common and uncommon poisons or drug overdoses. Dead men and boys deserve equal protection under the law.


Protect rights of MEN in normal men's sexual behavior.

37. End the criminalization of normal men's sexual behavior. Repeal all laws making men's sexuality, exposure, penetration, etc., into a criminal act unless there is demonstrable physical harm to a victim. Release and pardon all men who have been arrested for "statutory rape," "date rape," "spousal rape," "pornography," "soliciting a prostitute," and other weasel worded versions thereof. A woman's hurt feelings do not turn a man into a criminal.

38. Repeal laws prohibiting men from obtaining commercial sexual services from women who choose of their own free will to work in the sex industry. Such prohibitive laws serve to sexually control men by limiting men's access to sex and preventing open competition with wives' monopoly. Promulgate OSHA guidelines for the health and safety of sex workers.


Protect the Rights of MEN in the government.

39. Pass an Equal Rights Amendment that guarantees equal rights for men in all government laws and programs.

40. Require all government agencies, which now have special departments for women to also have a similar and equally funded department for men.

41. Repeal laws prohibiting men from obtaining recreational drugs and other "controlled substances." These laws create crime for the purpose of fighting it. They make millions of men into criminals and breed widespread disrespect for law and order. The prohibition of drugs supports and makes possible massive crime statistics and is responsible for fully half of all crime in the US. Pardon and release all men currently imprisoned for "drug related" crimes.


Protect the rights of MEN to equal educational opportunity.

42. Eliminate systematic anti-men sexist and anti-white racist bias in college admissions criteria that is now widely prevalent in many state and private colleges and universities.

43. Equally enforce Title IX of the Civil Rights Act wherever men are discriminated against in education. End the half-century of flagrant discrimination against men by the Department of Education.

44. Restore men's colleges and schools that have been systematically eliminated in the name of "equality" while women's colleges and schools are still supported by tax paid budgets, programs, grants or scholarships.

45. Require all tax supported schools, colleges and universities that have departments called "women's studies," "gender studies" or similar euphemisms to also equally fund, staff, and support departments of "Men's Studies." Limit "women studies" and "gender studies" classes to no more than the number of classes and sections offered on "men's studies". Limit "black studies" or "hispanic studies," classes to no more than the number of classes and sections offered on "white studies."

46. Require that English, Philosophy, and other college departments which research, publish or teach "Feminist Theory" or "Gender Theory" also equally fund, research, teach, and publish "Masculinist Theory." Eliminate public funding for academic participation in the Modern Language Association or the College Composition and Communications Conference unless masculinist theories and research is equally supported in seminars and papers presented or published.

47. Require tax-funded libraries, schools, colleges and universities to purchase a number of books on men and men's issues equal to those they purchase on women and women's issues, and to maintain in their collection equal numbers of books on men and men's issues.

48. Eliminate speech codes and "harassment" codes currently used to oppress, subjugate, and silence men, students and professors, on college campuses. Ensure that the First Amendment rights to freedom of speech are not abridged.

49. Eliminate discriminatory college and university programs such as "multicultural centers," "women's centers" and others that do not include men, white men, or straight men as equal recipients of government funded programs.

50. Eliminate ongoing "orientation" programs aimed at forcing college students and employees to adopt racist and sexist beliefs and thoughts prejudicial to men and particularly white men under the guise of "diversity."

51. Ensure that men and particularly white men receive an equal share of scholarships, grants, student loans, and other financial aid that is now disproportionately available and provided on a racist and sexist basis.


Protect the rights of MEN at work.

52. End a half-century of flagrant discrimination against men by the DOL-EEOC and require this agency to show that they support the rights of men, including white men, at work with equal funding and effort.

53. End anti-men discrimination and anti-white men discrimination under so called "Affirmative Action" laws.

54. End the hostile work environments for men created by so-called "sexual harassment" laws. Acknowledge the fundamental rights of free speech and social contacts among adults in work as well as other social situations.

55. Initiate large efforts to reduce the disproportionate number of men killed at work, which now are over 90% of all work-related deaths. Ensure that women also work at the "at-risk" jobs by requiring employers to reassign or rotate workers between safe and more hazardous, harder, or more dirty jobs. Any company or govt. agency reporting to OSHA with a majority of one sex working at normally more risky occupations or reporting occupational injuries mostly to men should pay very large fines to its men workers for sexual discrimination against men.


Protect the rights of MEN in the media.

56. Balance women and men as murder victims, body count, and villains in movies and TV. Current badly disproportional display of men in negative media roles teaches prejudice against men.

57. Balance reporting of crime to eliminate the current over reporting of crimes committed by men and under reporting of crimes committed by women.

58. Allow discrimination lawsuits and punitive settlements for biased media coverage. Numerical unbalance by the media is de facto evidence of discrimination sufficient to prove discrimination and justify punitive class action damage awards.


Protect the rights of MEN to fair and equal justice under the law.

59. Restore equal justice. The current 25-1 discrepancy in prison population is due almost entirely to unfair laws and prosecution that criminalize men and allow women to be free. The real crime of most men in prison is merely being men. Justice tried before a biased court system is not justice at all. No man can get a fair trial in today's biased system. End prosecution of any man for any crime until fair and impartial justice is restored. It is not a crime to be born a man.

60. Reform the police and injustice system to end discrimination against men in police interrogation, citation, arrests, prosecution, plea bargaining, conviction, sentencing, prison time, prison conditions and parole. No man receives a fair trial under today's badly misandrist system. Stop all arrest and prosecution of men under a badly unfair and prejudice system. Pardon and release all men who have been convicted or imprisoned by the sexually biased injustice system.

61. End prosecution entirely for those crimes that are enforced primarily against men, and repeal unfair laws that apply or are applied to men only or primarily.

62. Equally prosecute and sentence both the women and the men where a woman and man perpetrated the crime as partners. End systematic plea bargaining and witness exclusion now used to exempt women who are partners in crime.

63. End special sexist legal defenses that now apply to women but not to men. Examples include the fictitious "battered wife" defense that excuses the murder of men.

64. End so called "rape shield" laws that take away the fundamental and constitutional right of American citizens to confront and question witnesses against them in a court of law.

65. End the so-called "sexual offender" reporting lists, which serve primarily as hate propaganda against men. They constitute cruel and unusual punishment and have no demonstrated value in deterring any future crime. Sex crimes have lower recidivism rates than other crimes. These lists and the life long publication of the names of men are unmitigated misandry.

66. End over prosecution and over punishment of men for minor offenses. Hate motivated accusations of crime made against men with no or minimal showing of physical injury to personas or property shall be no more than misdemeanors. A woman's hurt feelings do not justify the prosecution of a man for a major crime.

67. End current oppression of men by taking away a man's rights as a citizen when a woman maliciously accuses him of DV, child abuse or for other sham charges. Restore the civil rights of men previously accused or convicted in biased courts and of misandrist crimes such as those listed herein. A woman's misandry does not repeal a man's civil and constitutional rights.

68. Recognize that falsely accusing a man of crime is as much of an offense as the crime for which the man is falsely accused. Sentence anyone making a false accusation against a man in a court of law, and who fails to prove their accusation, to the penalty that the accused would have received had he been found guilty of the accusation. Include accusing witnesses and state paid attorneys. A verdict of "not guilty" for the accused is a final "guilty" verdict of "false accusation" for the accuser.

69. End prosecution of men for police accusations of minor infractions of law unless the accuser shows injury or endangerment to a particular person. For example, minor speeding on a vacant highway that endangers nobody is not a crime and should not be prosecuted. If there is no injury there is no crime, and no man ought to be punished. A man talking in the woods with no woman around is not wrong.

70. End the long-standing police practice of letting women go with a warning or ignoring their violations or crimes entirely while arresting or citing men for the same violations. Driving, walking, or living while a man is not a crime.

71. Require periodic published reports giving statistics of actions taken against men compared with police, or criminal prosecutor or court actions taken against women. Dismiss police reports, interrogation, citations and arrests of men in excess of those for women during any reporting period.

72. Summarily dismiss Police Chiefs, Police Commissioners, Judges, Prosecuting Attorneys and other elected and appointed government officials for malfeasance of duty if annual report statistics show a gender unbalance of arrests and/or prosecutions greater than 10%.


Protecting the rights of MEN in life

73. Respect men's privacy and feelings in dressing rooms, locker rooms, and toilet areas where such are provided to women in similar circumstances. Women's choice of restrictive or inconvenient clothing is not an excuse to minimize men's facilities or to allow women to violate men's privacy.

74. Provide adequate plumbing facilities for men in homes. Revise architectural standards and building codes to include men's plumbing needs. Today's standard residential bathtubs, for example, are not large enough to be used by most men. No urinal for men is currently provided in most homes.

75. End laws criminalizing men for public urination on rural roadsides and other suitable places. Normal men's body functions are neither obscene nor offensive.

76. End unequal laws currently allowing female reporters in men's sports team locker rooms but not men reporters in women's sports team locker rooms.

77. End unequal laws, codes and architectural standards requiring more plentiful and better-furnished toilet rooms for women than men in public buildings. Provide public facilities for men equal to those provided for women.

78. Initiate programs and research to improve men's health care, lower stress, reduce hazards, end violence, and all other ways that men are culturally mistreated until men regain equal longevity. The current imbalance in life expectancy of men is a direct reflection of the sum of all the ways that the culture discriminates against men.

79. Lower men's currently disproportional share of Social Security taxes to be proportional with the expected benefits that men receive. Men now pay 80% of social security taxes and receive 20% of benefits.

80. Lower men's currently disproportional share of life insurance, health insurance, retirement insurance, and car insurance charges. Insurance rates must be equalized to reflect fairly on the risks involved for each gender. Men now pay higher premiums for many kinds of insurance disproportionately to the insurance risks and costs involved.

81. Require equal obligation for military service. Women must be equally subject to the draft and military service, including combat, short dehumanizing haircuts, etc. The UCMJ and other regulations must be revised to eliminate rules that unfairly punish men for normal sexuality among men and female soldiers and sailors. Rules must be enacted and revised to eliminate current women's special rights to avoid combat or service by getting pregnant when military medical treatment can prevent pregnancy. Women's combat units can be created with equipment and tactics designed for women's size and strength to prevent women from becoming dependent within men's units.

82. Encourage work or employment situations that rejoin men with our families. Since the beginning of the industrial revolution men have been taken from our homes, farms and shops to work in factories apart from our families. This is an unnatural state that is inherently harmful to most men who lose contact with our children, and harmful to our children who are deprived of the company, guidance and love of their father. We demand that the society recognize and mitigate the grievous harm that industrialization has done to men and children.

83. End sexist law that currently prohibits men-only gyms, stores, clubs, etc., but permits women-only places of those kinds. Men must be permitted free association with other men in clubs, lodges, teams, and all social and fraternal venues. We demand freedoms for men to choose our friends and associates.

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